You already know how to analyze your life
We will work with what insight alone hasn't changed.
It's time for a different kind of therapy.
You don't need a therapist who is impressed by how well you understand yourself.
That insight matters,
but understanding yourself and experiencing something differently
aren't always the same thing.
Finish this sentence with one of the columns below:
"I am the one who..."
HOLDS IT TOGETHER
ALREADY UNDERSTANDS
WANTS SOMETHING TO CHANGE
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people come to me when things fall apart
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I handle an enormous amount of stress before anyone notices
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I take care of everyone else first
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I look capable even when I'm running on fumes
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I can seemingly function really well while something (or everything) inside me is not okay
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I know why I do what I do—but still do it
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I've already done therapy, read the books, or learned the language
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I can explain my patterns better than I can change them
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I know my past is over, but my body doesn't always seem to agree
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I'm tired of having insight without the actual shift that I thought would come with it
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I don't want to spend another year circling the same material
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I want a therapist who will actually show up in the room, not just nod
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I can handle honesty, depth, humor, and directness
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I want to understand myself—but also want something to change
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I want therapy that helps me trust myself more, not need my therapist more
This is where our work begins...
I am not a passive therapist.
I won't be intimidated by your insight or mistake your ability to explain yourself for healing. I won't sit back and nod while you beautifully articulate and intellectualize your way around the thing that actually hurts.
I will engage with you.
I'll get insatiably curious. I'll notice. I'll ask. I'll challenge.
I'll slow us down when something important just happened and your brain is
already thirteen sentences ahead.
And I won't position myself as the expert on you.
Specialties
Trauma
Something happened—or maybe you've had too many things happen—and some part of you is still responding as though things aren't over.
You may understand what happened. You may have told your story 100 times, made meaning from it, and built a full-ass life around it.
And still, your body reacts. A part of you takes over. The same belief surfaces and the past finds its way into the present.
We can work with what your system is still carrying.
Anxiety
Maybe your mind runs a million miles ahead of you. Your body sounds an alarm before you've had time to understand why. Or you're extraordinarily good at anticipating, preparing, managing all the things—and are rarely truly off.
Anxiety isn't always irrational. Sometimes it's a system that became exceptionally good at protecting you.
We learn to listen to the alarm; we get curious about why it keeps trying to get your attention.
Personal Transformation
Nothing has to be "wrong" for you to want something more in your life. Maybe you've outgrown an old version of yourself. You're questioning patterns, relationships, beliefs, roles, or ways of living that once fit and don't anymore (hello perimenopause.)
Or maybe you're just ready to know yourself differently.
Therapy can be about healing, yes; and, it can also be about BEcoming the next-level version of who you already are. Together we listen deeply to what wants to come alive.
My goal isn't to become the person you need in order to trust yourself.
It's to reconnect you back to yourself so deeply that your body, your intuition, your voice, and your own knowing become places you can turn toward—not away from.
There is no formula for being human
So I don't practice therapy as though there is one.
We may spend a session talking and following a thread neither of us expected to find. We may slow down and listen to a part of you that's been trying very hard to protect you. We may notice what your body is doing before your mind has words for it. We may use EMDR when something from the past is still showing up as though it's happening now.
The modality serves the work. The work doesn't serve the modality.