EMDR and trauma therapy
For accomplished women who understand a lot about themselves—but still find themselves reacting, struggling, or hurting in ways they can't quite change.
You can understand something and still be deeply affected by it.
You're accustomed to finding a way forward. But maybe something happened that turned your world upside down. A betrayal. A loss. An experience you never imagined having to navigate.
Or maybe you've spent years recognizing your patterns, understanding your history, and doing the work—yet something keeps happening that you can't seem to change.
You know better. You understand why. And still, your reactions don't always cooperate.
That's because understanding an experience isn't necessarily the same as processing it.
You can know you're safe and still feel threatened. Know you're competent and still feel terrified of making a mistake. Know a relationship is different and still brace for abandonment.
Your thinking mind may understand something that your emotional and physiological responses haven't fully integrated.
And that's where EMDR can help.
So, what is EMDR?
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based psychotherapy developed to help people process distressing experiences and embedded core beliefs that continue to affect them.
Using structured attention to memories, emotions, beliefs, and body sensations—often alongside eye movements or other forms of bilateral stimulation—EMDR can help reduce the distress associated with experiences that haven't been fully processed.
And trauma doesn't always mean one catastrophic event.
Other times, it's the accumulation of experiences that shaped how you learned to protect yourself, relate to others, or navigate the world.
What might that look like in your life?
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Anxiety & hypervigilance: Constantly anticipating, bracing, overthinking, or struggling to feel completely off duty.
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Perfectionism & performance: Being exceptionally capable while privately fearing that one mistake will expose you.
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Relationship & attachment wounds: Old experiences influencing trust, closeness, conflict, boundaries, or how you respond to rejection.
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Trauma & painful experiences: Events that are technically over but still feel emotionally or physically present.
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Shame & old beliefs: Knowing you're accomplished while some part of you still feels inadequate, unworthy, or not enough.
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Grief & loss: Navigating what happened, what didn't happen, or what you needed and never received.
Not every one of these experiences is necessarily trauma, and not every concern requires EMDR. We'll explore what's happening rather than forcing your experience into a diagnosis or treatment method.
What EMDR looks like when we work together
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First, we get curious. We explore what you're experiencing, how it's affecting your life, and what you want to be different.
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We also pay attention to your capacity, your nervous system, and what you need to feel sufficiently supported in the work.
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Then, we work with what's actually showing up.
EMDR may involve identifying experiences that still carry distress, noticing associated beliefs and body sensations, and using bilateral stimulation within a structured therapeutic process. We don't have to revisit every painful experience you've ever had. And we don't begin intensive processing before we've established an appropriate foundation. And we pay attention to what changes. Not just what you understand intellectually, but how you experience yourself, respond to situations, and navigate your life.
The goal isn't to erase your history. It's to help experiences from your past have less power over your present.
EMDR isn't the whole therapy.
I don't begin with a modality and try to fit you into it.
Sometimes EMDR is appropriate. Sometimes we work with protective parts of you. Sometimes we follow what your body is communicating. Sometimes we talk, build resources, or attend to what's happening in your life right now.
And sometimes the most useful thing we can do is slow down.
You don't have to know which approach you need. That's part of my job.
Bring me what's showing up.
We'll make room for what happened, get curious about what your mind and body are carrying, and work toward meaningful change—together.